Yikes...apparently that blog post was read by some as snotty, judgmental, and critical of how other people parent.
You missed the point. Maybe I talked too much.
I parent like a 1950's mother. I believe the way I parent my children is best for my children, no one else's. My question was simply whether I am putting my old-fashioned values above my kids' happiness. Literally everyone else seems to do things differently than I do, and I am hardly so arrogant as to think I'm right and they're wrong. Rather, I was positing that perhaps I am wrong, and the ubiquitous "everyone else" is right.
Do I judge bad parenting? Yes. If you abuse your child, I judge you. If you sell your children for crack, I judge you. If you neglect to feed your children, I judge you. If you simply let them stay up to watch “Glee,” it doesn’t occur to me to judge you. If they eat Big Macs, I don’t judge you. Even if your kid is allowed to say “Shut up,” it’s not bad parenting, it’s different parenting. It’s not for me but it might work for you.